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Day 21 – Fear
Fear. We all have it. We all handle it differently. Fear is what stops the flow, what disconnects us from ourselves and one another. It’s what created so much drama in this last election. Fear of change, fear of new, fear of different. Fear is divisive and strong… if we let it be. Fear causes stress. Stress causes 80% of illness. Fear is bullshit.
I came across this awesome quote today about fear (see below). It was perfectly fitting as I have been having a lot of fears around taking the leap to make my dreams come true. So many possibilities, and yet in that possibility there is an overwhelming feeling of – “can I really do this?” “can I really make this happen?” The fear tells the story of not having enough time, not being enough, not having enough. Again… bullshit.
Fear is just:
and results in an attitude of:
…if we let it get to us.
Or we can:
ROAR, REJOICE, RESPOND, RELAX
Research shows that 78% of the population spends up to eight hours a day dealing with fear and worry!
It also shows that 40% of the stuff we worry about will never happen; 30% is taken up with thoughts and distortions of situations from our past events that we can’t change; 12% of what we worry about is other people’s business; 10% of what we worry about is what’s considered to be imagined illness.
Do the math: 92% of our worries are completely reactive! That leaves 8% of fear or worry that is justifiable.
Refer back to this information when you find your blood pressure rising, when fear and anxiety begins to set in or when you find yourself worrying.
Chances are you’re stressing about a situation that is never going happen, is stemming from your past, is completely imaginary or that you simply have no control over.
If it won’t matter in five years from now chances are it does not matter now.
Wow. Powerful stuff. It does not matter – it is all illusion/stress/drama. Choose to face EVERYTHING and meet it with a roar – nothing to be scared of, we got this shit!
Day 20 – make a wish
This post will go up at 11:11pm (PST) on 11.11.
I have always had a thing about 11:11… it is the time that I always happen to look at the clock. I have always thought of it as a lucky number, and have been making wishes on it for as long as I can remember.
Looking back a lot of those wishes have come true.
I could believe it to be chance – a happy accident – or I can accept that I created my reality. I made shit happen!
Today in teacher training (Yoga Blend with Christy Marsden) we were talking about this exact issue: it is so easy to focus on what’s ahead, to discredit the work that we have already done… to future trip. We look back and think about the could haves, should haves, would haves; and when things have gone right we chalk it up to circumstance rather than owning it (or maybe that’s just me?). I know I do this; I’ve talked about it on this blog. I know this is something I will continue to work on – finding the balance between doing the work/pushing ahead and finding some gratitude.
I know that those wishes came true because I believed in them, because I could see them, because I took action to make them happen, because I have worked really fucking hard through some really tough stuff. It’s not about bragging or inflating my ego – its about giving myself some credit.
There were times when just making a wish was tough – the head-trip of impossibility, worthlessness, guilt, etc. would get in the way of stating what it was I really wanted, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of crappiness. What we put out is what we get back… so tonight I hope you’ll join me in making your biggest wish, in putting your greatest dream out there.
What we feed grows – are you feeding your wishes or your nightmares?
“Wish it, believe it, and it will be so.” – Deborah Smith
day 11 – don’t sweat
It doesn’t have to be done all at once. It will never all be finished. There will be more. And that is a wonderful thing. It means I am still alive. The end will be the end, and until then the book is still being written. And I am the author.
I was the kid that read the last chapter of the book first. Set the expectation of having it all figured out ahead of time. I don’t have it figured out. I won’t have it figured out. And that is a wonderful thing. It means I am still learning.
I have a tendency to set up all or nothing situations. If I can’t do everything I can’t do anything. I can’t do everything. But I can do anything. And that is a wonderful thing. It means my life is full of possibility.
It is easier to notice what isn’t working than what is. More is working than what isn’t. And that is a wonderful thing. It means I have a lot to be grateful for.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
That is all for now.
day 7 – bad day
Struggling to find the words tonight. I have 8 minutes until it is no longer day 7 and chances are this post won’t be up. Fail. Does it count if I haven’t gone to bed yet?
The day started off ok, busy (as always), but overall smooth sailing. Then I entered the danger zone. I started to surf the web – found some cool blogs, did a little reading… and that was the beginning of the end. Looking at what others are doing brings on an onslaught of comparison, which turns into self-loathing and a strong sense of defeat. The I’m not good enough’s started creeping in, along with the what the hell am I doing with myself’s? and the you will never be as good as them’s. Fun times.
I recently attended a networking event for Young Female Entrepreneurs where a couple of brilliant women – Nailah Blades of polkadotcoaching.com and Donna Queza of marketing-optimist.com – shared their Five Not-So-Sparkly Truths of Entrepreneurship with the group. As I was using myself as a punching bag, I was reminded of their talk and pulled up the info where I came across this gem:
Entrepreneurship is a hustle. It always has been and it will continue to be, even as you grow into a bigger, stronger female entrepreneur. As Danielle LaPorte famously said, “You’ll never fully arrive.” There will always be something that someone else is seemingly better at. When you start getting into comparison mode STOP, and re-focus on the things you are knocking out of the park.
So I decided to focus on teaching – on leading the most kick ass, connected, real and wonderful class ever. As I was teaching (Nue Yoga at Nue Studio) I heard myself saying the same shit I often do about letting go of what’s no longer serving us and choosing to be happy, focusing on what’s working etc. Yet I was still feeling like shit. As I was talking, I reminded myself of a great teaching from training a couple of weeks ago. Get ready people, this one might blow your mind: it is ok to have a bad day. I repeat: it is ok to have a bad day! (Thanks Chrisy Marsden of Yoga Blend).
If I am constantly trying to fight feeling crappy I am ignoring the truth, stuffing it down somewhere and filling myself up with shit, which will eventually explode and that could be quite messy. Sometimes we just have to sit in the shit – play around in it, get real stinky. Sometimes that is the only way that things will get better. In the end, it’s about feeling more happy and less crappy as my students say 🙂
So, I am having a crappy day. There I said it. Tomorrow will be a new one. One where I can work on focusing on the things I am knocking out of the park and remembering that I AM ENOUGH!!!