Posts Tagged with: 30 days to 30
day 15 – trust the process
In keeping with my new slogan: make shit happen, I have been reflecting on how to do just that. Yesterday I talked about starting, today is on pushing through.
Here’s what I know:
In order to make shit happen you have to want it bad enough – you have to be passionate. Passion ignites the flame that inspires the actions that makes dreams become reality. Passion is what brings meaning and purpose into our lives, especially if that passion involves giving back, helping others and making a difference. I have created a whole business around helping others to live more passion-filled lives, shit I even made it the slogan of One Down Dog. Living a life in line with our purpose and our passion brings more joy and reduces suffering – no brainer right? Not so easy though, I have struggled to identify what my passion is for years, what my purpose in this life is… there are just SO many things to be interested in. I have found some tools to help me along the way, questions that I have asked myself that have helped me gain clarity. Here are some of them:
- What is most important to you in the world?
- What makes you super excited to get up in the morning?
- What do you spend your free time doing?
- What does your perfect day look like: what are you doing, who are you with, when do you wake up/go to bed?
- What do your friends/family tell you that you are best in the world at?
It took a long time, but as I approach 30, I now feel confident that I am aligned with my passion… so now what? I know what I want to do, I have a clearer picture as to what my purpose is, but passion won’t pay the bills it can only take me so far. The rest is up to me – now is time for action!
First things first: VISUALIZATION
Imagine exactly what you want. All the details – what does it look like, feel like, etc. – get specific!
Act as if. Take the next right step. Ask for help. Be vigilant. Open up to possibility, synchronicity, opportunity. Align your actions with your intention and attitude – reflect, adjust, repeat.
Lastly: TRUST THE PROCESS
The process is never easy. There will be good and bad days – the bad days allow us to truly appreciate the good – it’s all about perspective. When we can get out of our own way, step into the flow and allow things to unfold – knowing that we have done the best we could – amazing things will happen. No matter how much we visualize, how much we act, in the end things will not always look how we imagined, shit will come up, it will seem as if we have failed. Don’t stop. Trust the process. Everything is a lesson, an opportunity to grow closer to our goals – stronger, smarter, better. In the end, one day we will wake up and that visualization, that image we created, has not only happened but is more beautiful and wonderful than we could have ever imagined.
Last week I was feeling like crap about this blog, about the direction of my life, about life in general. This week I received an email re: an amazing business coach exactly when I needed one, a return email to schedule an appointment with someone in my field that could be a wonderful connection, had a meeting at a space that could become the first One Down Dog studio, and met with the owner of a studio I am hoping to teach at soon. I can chose to focus on all of that, or look at the negative that the email came months later and the studio isn’t in the right location or the right size and the friends place is too far and the this and the that. Fuck all that noise – shit is happening and I trust the process!
Yes, this whole post is a pep talk to myself – deal with it 😛
4 more years!! 🙂
day 14 – the start
Starting is not easy; often times it is the hardest thing to do. It is full of uncertainty, requires getting comfortable with the not so comfy stuff, putting yourself out there and taking a risk. As I reflect on these 30 years of living I think of how many ideas, dreams and goals have gone unrealized because the idea of starting was just too overwhelming. The lists just pile up and then sit there, waiting.
I am an idea person, not a follow through person.
I am a creative idea person with excellent follow through skills that gets shit done and does them well. #30daysto30 🙂
The first step in getting started is letting go of old stories, preconceived ideas about ourselves that prevent us from truly living. Because that one time, back when we were _ years old, we tried something and failed we hold ourselves hostage for years. Doesn’t make any sense, and yet I know I do it all the time. Or rather, I did 😛
The next step is motivation – putting some wind into our sails.
Here are some “get your booty into gear” inspiring quotes:
The biggest mistake you can ever make, is being too afraid to make one.
If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. ― Lewis Carroll
The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. – Walt Disney
Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises. – Demosthenes
A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. – Lao Tsu
Begin today. Declare out loud to the universe that you are willing to let go of struggle and eager to learn through joy. – Sarah Ban Breathnach
There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth…not going all the way, and not starting. – Buddha
Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect. – Alan Cohen
The secret to living the life of your dreams is to start living the life of your dreams today, in every little way you possibly can. – Mike Dooley
How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world. – Anne Frank
Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Life is not a dress rehearsal. Stop practicing what you’re going to do and just go do it. In one bold stroke you can transform today. – Marilyn Grey
SO HERE’S THE PLAN:
Stop worrying and driving myself nuts waiting for all the answers, for perfection, and for the end result to be clear. Start now, do it NOW. Stop waiting for the right moment, the right circumstances, the right people. Start doing the next right thing where I am, with what I have in this moment. Stop getting in the way of the flow of the universe. Start breathing, opening up and being willing to allow possibility to present itself. Stop making life miserable and unbearable with judgment, self-loathing and fear. Start having fun, finding joy and celebrating even the smallest of successes. Make awesome happen… One Down Dog at a time.
Today I am going to send an email with a proposal to make a dream of mine come true. It doesn’t look exactly how I thought it would. It might not happen right away. It might not happen at all. It won’t be perfect, it will take a lot of effort, it will be just right for right now. It is a step.
one step forward.
In the words of Seth Godin, “You might not end up with perfect, but it’s significantly more valuable than being stuck.”
day 12 – jtree
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I… I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. – Robert Frost
This year has been all about change, transformation, growth, reflection, action, and surrender. Over the summer I beat the impossible – I took a leap and went on a rock climbing and yoga retreat – despite having my job threatened for attending (long story, not ready to dig into that just yet). Holy shit rock climbing is awesome! As I started my ascent I heard myself say, “this is impossible.” A statement I am oh so familiar with. And yet time and time again I prove myself wrong. My kick-ass climbing guide helped me get up past a huge slick boulder with nothing to grip onto, and after that it was smooth sailing from there. Isn’t that often the case? We look ahead, and life can seem so daunting. Then we take that first step, ask for some assistance, step into the flow and all of a sudden we are climbing to the top! On my way up I stopped to enjoy the view – it was absolutely breathtaking!
Since that day a lot has changed in my life. A lot was lost, but even more found. I found my voice, I found my freedom, and most importantly I found myself. I reconnected with my passion, my purpose. On that trip I realized that no matter what, I will be ok. It has not been easy. But what good things ever are? Looking back the things I remember most, the things that stand out, the things that changed my life for the better were fucking hard!
Life can seem like a big slick boulder – no idea where to go, how to get up, how to move forward. So we stay stuck, stick with what we know; what is “comfy”, what is easy. It is never really easy though, and it prevents us from seeing the beautiful view.
So in the end, I say: take the risk, ask for what you need, make awesome happen One Down Dog at a time… and don’t forget to stop and check out the view!
day 13 – memories
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein
30 years flies by pretty quickly when you’re having fun, surrounded by the greatest people in the world.
30 photos for 30 years…
day 11 – don’t sweat
It doesn’t have to be done all at once. It will never all be finished. There will be more. And that is a wonderful thing. It means I am still alive. The end will be the end, and until then the book is still being written. And I am the author.
I was the kid that read the last chapter of the book first. Set the expectation of having it all figured out ahead of time. I don’t have it figured out. I won’t have it figured out. And that is a wonderful thing. It means I am still learning.
I have a tendency to set up all or nothing situations. If I can’t do everything I can’t do anything. I can’t do everything. But I can do anything. And that is a wonderful thing. It means my life is full of possibility.
It is easier to notice what isn’t working than what is. More is working than what isn’t. And that is a wonderful thing. It means I have a lot to be grateful for.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
That is all for now.